Zones.

So while I was not studying, I came up with this theory on classifying the levels of acknowledgement on secrets and privacy. Or the imaginary lines in relationships or friendships that grant you the right to intervene the other party's confidential area. So it goes like this;

1) The Stranger Zone

So the title says it all. This is the zone where you and the other party are basically strangers or acquaintances. There is no interest in digging for each other's secrecy or personal matter. Could also be called the “Don't Care” zone.

2) The Friend Zone

Unlike the typically defined "Friend Zone", this zone is actually the level where you and the other party are normal friends. It is when each other meets and greets one another hello and goes all friendly yaday yaday. And there's a desire to know what is revolving in the other party's life. This desire is usually more of curiosity rather than intimacy. You believe that knowing it could clench your curiosity, and you'd probably have something to talk (gossip) about with other friends. Or better, to use their life story as an inspiration or motivation. Could also involve celebrities, sportsmen or politicians.

3) So Close yet So Far

This one is a tricky yet unknowingly common. This is the part where both parties are practically very close physically and mentally, but yet there's a strange distance emotionally, causing it hard to open up to one another. This unwilling desire to be completely transparent to one another is probably due to the belief that knowing too much could ruin the closeness, and crossing the line of privacy would cross off the line of the relationship. There are possible reasons to this thinking. One of it is probably due to the intellectual tension between one another, causing them not wanting the other party to smell the weaknesses or unravel the negative traits that they posses. On the bright side, this is actually good to maintain the competency or dynamism of what the relationship is benefiting, as this type of relationship usually comprises of two parties with mutual interest in achieving the same goal or objective. But this type of knot would not work well once the objective is off the table. This is the best example to distinguish the difference between intimacy and closeness. Commonly occurr in workplaces, colleges or organizations.

4) Up Close & Personal

This is the zone where two parties could easily open up to one another without hesitation. Both parties are connected well emotionally and not afraid to be judged by one another. But there's a catch, as this kind of relationship is usually not attached to other factors of closeness such as work or studies. This is due to the fact that intimacy of this knot could be easily shattered by the coarseness of other vivid values because let's face it, emotional attachments are very much imaginary and incomputable. Very often than not, this relationship usually occurs in marriages, close friendships and also shrinks (?). 

5) Soul Mates

The high achieving zone where your partner in crime is also your partner in pretty much every event and occasion. Both parties could comfortably work as a team but at the same time, have an emotional bond that is not capable to be torn down by other countable aspects. This type of bond would make a good family business and partnerships. 

So, which of the ones that you're involved in?


p/s: Final exams in 48 hours.